"Recovery is the freedom to make choices in your life that aren't determined by the abuse."
1 in 6 men have faced sexual abuse in their lifetime.
Someone is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds in the United States.
28% of U.S. youth ages 14-17 have been sexually victimized in their lifetime.
Survivors of sexual abuse, assault, and trauma can struggle to find their voice in a society that stigmatizes and silences sexual trauma. This leads many individuals to stay quiet—suppressing, reframing, or minimizing their very true experiences.
While this may work to numb out the experience for some time, it ultimately surfaces in subtle—and not so subtle—ways such as depression, risky behavior, rocky relationships, sexual health concerns, anger, insecurity, struggles with careers, substance use, shame, and emotional or social isolation.
Healing begins when we allow ourselves to hear our own voice. It takes strength and courage to recognize for ourselves that an "unwanted sexual experience" as a child or adult was and is traumatic.
Whether you decide to name it as abuse, incest, trauma, or something else, the very fact that you have acknowledged it is a huge step. The fact that you are seeking support through therapy is an act of resilience in and of itself.
How Can You Help?
Integrating relational neuroscience and somatic understanding of the mind-body connection, we will work together to understand how these past experiences have had an impact throughout your personal, social-relational, and sexual life. Together, we will process its influence on your perceptions of self and relationships with others. We will identify the coping strategies that you have used throughout to maintain some sense of safety and control, and expand upon those initial coping strategies, that may at times be unhelpful in present day.
Tools fostered throughout our sessions include: emotional and body-based regulation skills, self-compassion, effective communication, embracing resiliency, and somatic affective awareness.
Do You Have Experience Working with SA Survivors?
Yes I do. I have and continue to work with survivors of sexual abuse, assault, and spousification/emotional incest. I have experience working with straight and queer survivors as well as members of the trans-community.
What Makes You Different from Other Trauma Therapists?
Unlike other providers, I am both a psychotherapist and a Certified Sex Therapist. During the course of accomplishing my AASECT sex therapy certification, I tailored my education to working with men's sexuality, sexual trauma, and sexuality, kink, and relationship diversity. My advanced education in human sexuality provides me with additional insight on the ways sexual trauma impacts one's sexual and romantic life as well as one's view of sexuality, eroticism, and intimacy.
In addition to my post-Master's education, I volunteered for MaleSurvivor.org in 2022 helping to support the Moderating Staff and Mod Forums.
Lastly, I myself am a survivor of emotional incest on my own healing journey as I navigate the residual effects of my childhood experiences.